Anger

Why is it so easy to hold the grudge? It’s because it makes you feel good in the moment, right?

Holding a grudge is a response to the way you feel on the inside based upon what someone else has done to you. However, it is based upon the expression of your anger and frustration with whatever situation happened to you. But, is this a good thing? Think about it, how does it benefit you? If you really think about it, holding a grudge does nothing but hurt you in the long run.

Grudges are harmful! They hurt you. Despite what you think, they are not hurting the other person as much as it’s hurting you.

Let’s think about this: think about the response you are getting from your body when you’re so angry and you think about the situation that happened to you. Think about what happened that caused the anger in first place… Are you feeling angry again? What are you feeling in your body right now? Do you feel hot? Is your heart racing a little faster? Are you breathing faster?

You may think, “Oh it’s not that serious: so what if I’m angry? So what if I’m holding a grudge? Your body feels differently. The wear and tear that you’re placing on your body is almost as equivalent to running a marathon over and over again without giving your body a break to rest.

Your mind and body are working overtime to get back to balance, but when you hold a grudge your body remembers the physiological response to the anger….. And, if you don’t let it go, eventually you may change the way you respond to other anger provoking situations. It will become normal to respond with disdain and frustration.

Let the anger go. Release it, like releasing a helium balloon to the sky. Watch it float it away and imagine this each time you begin to think about your grudge, replacing the feelings with calming thoughts.